Can't Stop Comparing Yourself To Others? Shatter Your Plans To Make It Big in Life!

Here’s the real reason why you must find a way to stop comparing yourself with the world on an ASAP basis.

Introduction

I saw this video of a monk who said a statement that has changed my life for good.

He said something on the lines of, “There is nothing in this world that can hurt you as much as your thoughts, and there is nothing in this world that can heal you as much as your thoughts.”

This one powerful statement has made a home for itself in my subconscious mind.

I was consulting one of my consulting clients and I realised the potential that was getting wasted because a lot of her energy was being consumed in the process of comparing.

She would often compare herself to others on social media, her peer group, her cousins and other family members and that’s when I decided to bring up this subject in my notes.

So, let's deep dive and understand the concept of comparison.

Is comparison natural?

My answer to this question may get me hate online, but someone needs to call a spade a spade.

I genuinely think (read: know) that comparison is not a natural human tendency.

This is a habit that we pick up over the years as we “grow up”.

The easiest way to understand the logic behind this argument is to look at kids.

Have you seen a kid compare themself to their peer group?

Not really.

I know some people may be thinking about this subject as, “Hey Manish! Haven’t you seen a kid compare themself with another kid, when they see a kid playing with a toy that they don’t have?”

To which, my answer is simple. The kid is not comparing the lack of toy in his/her life.

The kid is just fascinated by the toy, and they want to play with the toy, and that’s the start and end of the situation.

Get this kid the same toy and you will see how easily they get settled, in fact they will act elated and start playing with the toy.

The happiness and gratitude will be evident on their faces.

However, when a man/ lady compares his/ her life/ achievements with another man/ lady, achieving the same goal as the person they were comparing with doesn’t guarantee happiness.

Once one comparison ends, another one begins.

For a child, comparison is a situational incident.

In adults the attitude of comparison is a behavioural pattern.

Also, if comparison was “natural” everyone would be feeling miserable about their life by comparing their life with someone else’s.

Why is comparison a waste?

In simple words, it’s a waste of effort, time and energy because comparison doesn’t generate any positive results, ever.

You would never see a positive outcome come out of a comparison situation in life of an adult human.

People who tend to compare tend to always focus on glass half empty, and even when the glass is filled, they may find a new reason to complain that why was the glass half empty for such a long time, or their self-doubt may kick in and they would overthink if they deserved this reward now, etc.

What’s the right thing to do?

While the feeling of comparison may not be natural, but in life it’s natural to get into situations where you will find yourself comparing some aspect of your life to someone else’s.

Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, let this checklist come to your rescue.

1. Be mindful

Bookmark this post (and the idea of comparison being futile in your subconscious mind.

Next time you find yourself in the zone of comparison, get in the mindful mode and try to let the thought pass by

2. Count your blessings/ gratitude

Unless you’re a monk who has rescinded all materialistic goals, you will always have something that would make you feel insufficient (should you allow it to).

Every time you find yourself feeling those unsettling feelings, start counting/ writing your blessings and express gratitude (around the aspect of life you’re comparing yourself.

This habit may take time to inculcate (and show results), but when you start practicing gratitude during the time of distress and even otherwise, you will find yourself to become emotionally resilient and things will not phase you out easily.

If you still slip once in a while and if you inculcate the habit of practicing gratitude, the moment you start practicing gratitude in the moment of distress, you will find the unsettling feeling pass by in a matter of minutes, if not seconds.

3. Focus on your goals/ mission

People who tend to get into the zone of comparison are often observed to be people who are not happy with the most important aspects of their life (career/ business, relationships, wealth).

If you don’t know how to drive a vehicle, watching/ reading content about learning how to drive, you still won’t be able to drive the car out of the garage.

The only way to work things out is to work your way out.

Conclusion

If you’re in the deep trenches of comparing yourself to others, this note may sound preachy.

In which case, I’d strongly request you to find someone to share your thoughts/ feelings/ emotions with someone.

If needed, please seek professional help.

If you find yourself stuck in the zone of content creation (YouTube/ podcast), starting your new business, or building/ growing your personal brand, or your personal financial situation feel free to reach out to me on Instagram DM.

Tell me about your thoughts and let’s see if I can find a way to help you with something.

Your Thoughts!

So, what do you think about what you’ve just read?

Do you agree to the mindset and the process shared?

Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other people all the time?

Have you overcome the challenge of comparing yourself to others?

Did you use the tools/ mindset shared in the post, or did some other technique/ method help you overcome the challenge?

Let’s continue this conversation (or ask your questions about the post) in the comments below.

Keep Going Keep Growing 🚀

Have I earned your share?

Thank you for reading the full post. Since you read this till the end, it’s safe to assume you found value in the content.

Please consider sharing this post with your audience on social media. You may end up helping someone who’s struggling in their career/ business because they don’t understand the importance of building their personal brand.

I’m sure if you think hard, you will easily come with a few names who you know must read this.

Share this with them, help them and earn your blessings.

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Prompt used to create the image for the note

P.S.: Image made on Meta AI using the prompt, “Imagine someone who's feeling absolutely miserable because they keep comparing themself to everyone else in their life”